There is no shortage of gay men to message and potentially meet up with online, as thousands of gay guys are hopping on and off different dating apps all the time. But what is the best gay dating app for you?
At Gay Dating Solutions we pride ourselves on finding you the best friends and partners. We do the work necessary to pair you with men who are worth your time. There are NO fake profiles and NO generic matching. Gay Dating Solutions was started by an Atlanta psychologist who experienced difficulty in meeting appropriate men on several different sites. His goal was to create a dating site that paired men with true friends and potential life partners.
Why sift through thousands of profiles? Let us pair you with real men looking for real friendships and real relationships.
All you have to do is tell us about yourself and what you are looking for and then complete a short personality questionnaire.
We begin by pairing you with appropriate men based on your description of your self and what you are looking for in others. This list gives you a great base of options. BUT then we take it a step further. The psychologist created a 27 item personality questionnaire which allows us to do Preferred matching. Your responses to our questionnaire show us how best to pair you with men from the base list who we feel would be a good fit. You then have a base list but also a Preferred List to begin dating.
Year after year, tons of online dating sites have documented a surge in traffic during December and January—a.k.a. the height of “cuffing season.” With that in mind, here are some online dating tips to take advantage of all those potential new opportunities:
Don’t spend twenty minutes agonizing over what message to send. Or worrying about whether you get a response or not. When sending that first message just keep it short, punchy, and have fun!
While we’re on the subject of first messages – don’t wait for or expect your dream guy to message you first. He’s already got a flood of gay men messaging him so he doesn’t need to send out any first messages. So send the first message yourself while keeping it fun and playful. Do that and you have a good shot at standing out from the other guys sending the same boring lines.
Find out what you have in common. If you don’t have shared interests and values, it’s way harder to share a life together. A similar sense of humor also helps massively on the compatibility scale – but keep in mind it’s sometimes difficult to convey humor over mail and chat, especially if you are super sarcastic.
It’s really easy to be fickle when dating online, to write someone off for the smallest thing – bad fashion, incorrect use of their/there/they’re.
Give the guys who aren’t your usual ‘type’ a chance. Physical chemistry is important, but some people need time to grow on you. When you’re 90, would you rather be with the guy who makes you pee from laughter or the guy who once had abs of steel?
If it’s not working out, log off and move on. Don’t waste any more time ‘fixing’ something that can’t be fixed.
It’s a great thing to take charge of your love life and online dating can be the BEST confidence boost, but don’t take it all too seriously. See who’s out there but don’t intentionally mess people about. Timing is everything – if you just see it all as a game you might just accidentally unlike Mr Right out of your life.
Online gay dating sites and apps are great, but the only way you can really test the chemistry and compatibility is to meet in person. And the sooner the better. The longer you chat online, the bigger you build up the fantasy image in your head.
If you like their profile, photos and have enjoyed a bit of banter then perfect! Now meet them in person for a quick drink or coffee. And if the bells chime do let me know.