Question: I have been out of the dating scene for 10 years after having been in a long-term relationship for that length and it has since ended. I find it difficult being back on the singles’ market. I currently find myself in a strange situation; I have met a guy through…
I have dated party boys, ivy-league boys, model boys, even just plain… boys. But when it comes to “like,” I have a plethora of experiences. For many single gay men, finding love is like chasing a dream. It’s hard to confuse love with sexual tension or even a really heavy amount…
It takes a bit more than coffee to get your life going, which is why mornings are the most important time of our day. Not only do they set the stage for how our lives will play out, but they also define our mood – either good or bad. It’s…
QUESTION: My partner of 9 years lost his job a year ago after having downloaded some pornography on his computer at work. He hasn’t had any luck since then securing new employment and the longer that time goes on without his finding a job, he’s become increasingly more depressed and hopeless.…
Having sex with a computer screen can be a lot less stressful than the real thing. This I know for sure, honey. There’s no need to shower, no need to worry about looking your best, and no need to stress about him calling you the next morning. If you ask…
“I don’t think there’s enough passion between us”, “I don’t think we are a complete match”, “I’m not feeling a click”, “I don’t think there’s enough chemistry on my side”, “We’re not sexually compatible”, “I’m not ready for a relationship”, “It’s not you; it’s me”, “I’d like for us to…
I’ve reached a point in my life where I know what works and what doesn’t in a relationship. The answer: nothing. There is absolutely no prescribed fix for any given situation in terms of relationships. But to borrow from an old saying, I’ve learned from my mistakes – and his…
I have been using the internet to communicate with other gay guys my age since I was sixteen-years-old. What started as a means to explore my curiosities in the privacy of my bedroom has matured into a means by which I have met romantic partners. In the early days of…
Despite our knowledge about HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted infections these days, recent studies point to a decrease in condom usage among gay and bisexual men. Why is this happening in spite of our knowledge of safer sex education and of the lethality that can be involved with contracting HIV? There…
It is easy to get stuck in a relationship rut. We human beings are creatures of habit. Often we don’t like change much, especially if keeping things the same helps us feel safe or at least in familiar territory. Many of us will choose safe-but-boring over new-and-possibly-better any time we…
I just finished reading about the suicide of a gay therapist Bob Bergeron. No one knows for sure why he committed suicide—the author of the article and many of his friends are left to ponder the reasons. But the irony left in the wake of his death is hard to ignore. He…
One of the most common complaints I receive from single gay men about the dating scene is their frustration and pain of wearing “the battle scars” of mistreatment at the hands of other men they’ve met for potential friendship and dating. “Why doesn’t he call me back when he says he…