Relationship Advice: Facing a Fear of Commitment
Ever read advice columns? I don’t think they could exist without letters from women dating guys who can’t commit. It’s almost a cliché: “Joe and I have been dating for 7 years now, and he still hasn’t asked me to marry him. What’s wrong?” Gay men are probably no different from…
Why Self-Compassion Trumps Self-Esteem
Is self-compassion more important than self-esteem? It’s typical for human beings to become a replica of how we’re treated by the world and those closest to us. If we’re treated like a victim, it’s easy to make that the baseline of our self-worth. When we’re talked down upon, it’s easy…
PDX Gay Guide: LGBT Portland Sports and Recreation
Located only a few hours from the beach, the mountains and the high desert, Portland is a sports and wilderness lover’s fantasy come true. In addition to regional outdoors offerings, Portland offers a wide range of hiking, biking and water sports within city limits. LGBTQ visitors can partake in exciting…
Top Common Reasons Why Gay Relationships Work and Fail
“Society desperately needs to see healthy gay couples functioning in successful relationships.” Back in the 90’s, I worked at Linden Oaks Hospital, a psychiatric clinic in Naperville, Illinois in their outpatient department providing counseling to all ages and populations.We did a lot of work with couples and used a handout…
Ex with Benefits: Bad Idea or Harmless Fun?
Running into your ex is common in the LGBT community, especially when you’re in a gay neighborhood. At the gym, in the bar, or on the streets, we’re bound to run into an old fling at some point or other. Sure it might be a bit awkward, but what happens…
Gay Relationships: Exploring the Power of Sexual Fantasies
Jack and Matt are both buttoned-down businessmen and have been together for ten years. They’ve been inseparable since Jack picked Matt up one night after cruising him for hours at the dance bar they frequent. The seduction was hot: eye contact led to physical contact, then making out in a dark…
Popular Gay-Friendly Things To Do in Boston
I stop my bike along Boston Harbor and take a deep, long inhale of the fresh sea breeze that flows off the water. Immediately, I am transported from the energetic urban life of the city to a small New England town. I look out at the view along the waterway…
Relationship Upgrade: From Friends to Lovers
It’s not unusual for someone to say of his lover, “He’s my best friend.” That’s a sweet thing. Of course, it’s also great to have a best friend who is not part of your relationship, especially at times when the relationship feels a little strained and we need some place to let off…
Gay Advice: What Makes a Healthy and Happy Relationship?
“Healthy relationships require patience, creativity, skill and commitment. It can be hard work, but few accomplishments in life are more satisfying.” Healthy intimacy is a dance that honors and enjoys our partner while not losing our sense of individuality. Time and activity with our partner must be balanced by activities…
Out On Film ― Atlanta LGBT Film Festival 2015
Out On Film, Atlanta’s LGBT Film Festival, is one of the leading LGBT film festivals in the United States. Each year, they showcase 75-100 films – narratives, documentaries, short films. They also show everything from international fare to local programming to retrospectives. Out On Film released a packed lineup for…
Gay Relationships: Importance of Sex Role and Penetration
Sex is one of the most intriguing parts of a committed relationship. Two minds, bodies and souls connecting in such a vulnerable way increase not only the excitement, but the ever-growing trust which is crucial in everyone. But why is it when we think of gay sex, we assume penetration…
Creative Ways to Breakup with Your Jerk Boyfriend
Breaking up is hard to do, well, almost. Ending a relationship doesn’t always have to be nice. Sometimes boy toys are just plain idiots and need to be taught a lesson. The trick to a great breakup is turning it into a symbol. If it was an awkward relationship, make…