When it comes to dating goals for 2019, you may just want to date yourself, which is completely OK; the more comfortable you are with yourself, the more comfortable you may be later if you decide you want to date someone new. And, if you do want to focus on dating this 2019, here are some good tips to re-strategize your love life:
Often singles wait around for the perfect partner to come save them. Meanwhile they won’t travel, buy a house or take a vacation. When you are happy and fulfilled, you are much more attractive. Start loving yourself the way you want to be loved. Write down some things you’d love to do this year and make them happen for yourself. You’ll be a radiant and more interesting date.
Everyone does better with a cheerleader or team behind them. If dating is hard for you, enlist support. Gather your single friends to go out with you to events. Ask the people who love you to fix you up. If you want confidential support, consider hiring a professional dating coach to keep you in action this year. Or you can sign up at Gay Dating Solutions and take advantage of their free membership. They will pair you with appropriate men based on your description of yourself and what you are looking for in others.
Know what you want and if you don’t, don’t date until you figure it out.
It’s easy to feel lost at sea in the world of dating, especially if you don’t have some sort of game plan. Knowing what you’re looking for helps you know where to go to meet people, what questions to ask them and how much of your time you’re prepared to give up to do it. Don’t be afraid to be picky in 2019—the guy of your dreams will be worth the wait.
Make the first move.
Be honest—is there someone you’ve been eyeballing for some time that you’ve never plucked up the courage to ask out? Ask yourself what you have to lose from a refusal then go out there and ask for what you want—trust me, he’ll be relieved that you’ve taken the stress out of his hands!
Say ‘no’ more.
This doesn’t just go for the dating game, who would have thought there was so much power in two little letters? Saying no to people you’re not interested in, to obligations you don’t want to do, and to parties that just aren’t your scene will empower you to focus on exactly what it is you do want to do. Never feel pressured to do anything that just isn’t your thing—life’s too short and your time is much too valuable to please others above yourself.
Look beyond ‘Your Type’
Often we pick the same partners again and again, even if the package looks different. It’s now time to try something new. Sometimes it’s the man an inch shorter than your height restriction that sweeps you off your feet and proposes, making you happier than you ever dreamed possible. Get out of your own way and give someone new a chance. You may be very glad you did.
Delete your ex’s number.
Seriously, why do you even still have it there? The temptation to send the odd text is too much to resist, so take him out of the equation before your drunk self takes matters into her own hands. New Year is a time for looking forward, so make the decision to say goodbye to the past for good.
Focus on building a bomb life on your own instead of finding a guy.
It’s a cliche for a reason—you can bet that if you don’t see yourself as dateable, that opinion is going to be shared by the guys you meet. Saying nice things in the mirror, acknowledging what you love about yourself and spending some time with family and friends who boost you up will all send your dating confidence soaring. Your dates will appreciate it, trust me.
Give occasional second chances.
We’re so fixated on the idea of the fairy tale romance that we’re sometimes too quick to write off perfectly nice guys. It’s not about settling for average, but it’s definitely worth broadening your idea of the type of person you want to date. If he was awkward on the first date, put it down to nerves and give him a second chance. In a world fueled by tech, it can take more than a round of drinks to make a real connection with someone.
Have more fun.
If dating isn’t enjoyable, then what exactly is the point? However you decide to approach relationships in 2019, make sure that you’re having fun. Dating is about playing the long game, but with these resolutions, you’re in with a fighting chance of success.