Ready for a real committed relationship? Here are 7 quick tips to
getting a great start on finding a committed partner. Some of them are just basic
common sense; others might surprise you. These “do’s” are suggestions
for making dating better and more purposeful. And they are positive, communicative,
fun and respectful.

Include An Event

Plan the first date to include an event, such as a movie, museum,
concert or walk, along with talk time. You don’t want to just sit and bare souls
all evening and if you don’t particularly like his soul, at least you have something
else to focus on. Also, determining sexual interest doesn’t take up much time and
chemistry is the juice of life. But you’re shopping for a relationship so you need
to invest time to give yourself the chance not to dismiss a keeper too soon and
to make sure the two of you have more going for you than desire.

Multitude of Subjects

Do acquire a multitude of subjects you’re able to talk about.
Men who talk about their work all the time are not as interesting as men who have
many interests including and particularly the person they are on the date with.
Fifty percent of the airtime is yours so stay above thirty percent and below seventy
percent. No relationship is an exact 50/50 but balance needs to be established for harmony to begin.

A Date is a date

Remember that a date is a date. He is not your spiritual advisor
or therapist. Save your real or perceived problems and flaws until he is deeply
interested in you or at least interested. The goal of a first date is to have a
good time, and expect yourself to
contribute 60% of the effort toward achieving toward achieving
that goal.

Think who Is Best For YOu

Do realize the sexiest, most attractive man is not necessarily
the best choice for you. So don’t get carried away until you fill out the Spouse
Shopping List below to assess your personal
requirements.
Requirement
Unacceptable
Negotiable
Chemistry
Values
Status/Money
Appearance
Communication
Style
Taste/life style
Activity Level &
Type
Other

 

 

Use this table as safety net to move you past the biggest love block
of all: time wasting. If he isn’t eligible by your standards, move on.

Develop Your Communication

Develop your communication abilities you need to be a better
listener, practice listening you need to be more self-revealing, practice expressing yourself more. You can’t feel loved if you don’t feel understood and you can’t feel
understood if you are unable to tell him who you are. And vice versa: a partner
can’t feel loved unless you can listen without interrupting when he tells you what
he wants to say

“Thank you for dumping me”

You may have already experienced pain and sadness after being left and lived to see the day
you were thinking.  “Thank you for dumping me.”  When abandonment waves have passed you sometimes realize that being left was a lucky break.  He simply knew before you did that you were wrong for each other.

Be Assertive

Do be assertive in letting him know you would like to go out or go out again. This could mean calling to say you had a wonderful time or enjoyed meeting him or sending a note, text, or email. Be genuine and express enthusiasm and close the sale. Don’t walk around with wondering in your head. Find out if you are mutually interested in being together again.

 

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