10 Uncomfortable Truths About Gay Dating
Dating in the gay community isn’t a bowl of cherries. With so many reasons for us to be picky, we tend to limit ourselves inside a box built by our fantasies. Finding a man worth our time is like finding a needle in a haystack. A sad truth however is…
6 Steps to Starting Over in Relationships
As a couple’s therapist of course I work with many couples who want to start over after a recent betrayal or years of disappointment or distance. I believe we can get a fresh start but it takes a commitment to forgive and to develop new patterns and new memories together.…
Gay Dating 101: Texting On a Date? Do You Think It’s Rude?
Some months ago, I sat across from two gay men who were on their first date. The great thing about a first date is that almost anything the other person says is the most fascinating thing you’ve ever heard — because you want to have sex with him. Should you…
You’re Single Because You’re a Debbie Downer
There are some people who suffer from Chronic Dissatisfaction. It’s not a scientific term, but I think it paints the right picture. Some gay guys will never be satisfied with anything their entire lives. They’ll always wonder why things didn’t work out for them, why life decided to bite them in…
New Year’s Resolutions for Gay Couples
Probably the number one question I get asked most often by gay couples is, unsurprisingly, “How do I make my relationship better?” So, in line with the holiday and beginning of a New Year, I thought I’d write a short blurb that lists some possible action steps you might take…
Top 10 Misconceptions About Gay People
It’s time to clear up these ridiculous myths about same-sex couples! Let’s examine some of the myths that continue to negatively label same-sex unions. The next time you hear somebody claim truth to any of these prevalent falsehoods, be sure to speak up and educate others on the real deal! Myth #1: Gays…
Gay Guys Are Suffering From a Disney Complex
Everyone is a product of his or her childhood. As for most of the people my age, I grew up watching Disney movies. It wasn’t the catchy tunes or intriguing story plots that interested me most. It was the romance – always interfered by some kind of conflict. At the…
Gay Dating 101: Second Date Dilemma
When a first date goes well, you couldn’t feel better. You go away feeling excited about the prospect of seeing that person again, smiling to yourself over the things you said, the laughs you had and the looks you might have been daring enough to exchange. You might even get…
Gay Relationships: Restoring Your Trust In The Man You Love
Trust is probably the most important ingredient in fostering a healthy committed relationship and is commonly known to be the glue that cements a couple together. Trust is the endearing faith and confidence that your partner will respect you and not take advantage of or hurt you. It’s a feeling that…
Loneliness: The New Gay Epidemic
There’s an emptiness we’re all too afraid to talk about, even though most of us have been there at one point or another. It’s called loneliness, and it’s one of the scariest places we can ever possibly exist because it has the potential to shape our entire outlook on the world.…
First Date Dilemmas: When He’s Not Your Type
You’re brimming with excitement as you prepare to go out on your first date with that interesting guy. The mystery and intrigue of the unknown makes those first encounters with a dating prospect exhilarating and full of possibility. But what do you do when you soon discover during your meeting…
Helpful Tips for LGBT People On Surviving Christmas
Christmas is a celebration of peace and loving and giving, but for some LGBTI people it’s a time they dread. Some find Christmas a time of loneliness and depression, especially if they are estranged from their families. We all need to keep an eye on our friends and loved ones…